A simple way to decide
| Your relationship | Common range in the US |
|---|---|
| Colleague or acquaintance | $50 to $100 |
| Friend | $100 to $150 |
| Close friend or relative | $150 to $250 |
| Very close family | $250 and up |
These are the ranges many etiquette guides suggest. Give what you can comfortably afford; the couple will value your presence far more than the amount.
Things that change the amount
- Travel costs: if you are paying for flights and a hotel, it is fine to spend less on the gift.
- Couples and families: a couple or family usually gives one combined gift, often a little more than one person would.
- Not attending: it is still kind to send a gift, often a little smaller.
Cash, registry or something else?
- Registry: the safest choice; you know it is wanted.
- Cash or a check in a card: common and practical, especially for couples who already live together.
- Experiences: dinner, a weekend away or a contribution to the honeymoon.
Indian weddings
Cash in an envelope (shagun) is common, often in amounts ending in 1. See shagun: how much to give.
